A LOVE LETTER TO OUR MUMS

Photo: One For The Book - How to Roast Marshmallows with Nanny (and not get smoke in your eyes).

 

My gorgeous mum Kathy has been on my mind constantly over the past week. I blame the barrage of Mother’s Day advertising at every turn.
 
But it’s a good thing. Every ad and card has got me thinking. What would I do without my mum?
 
A few years ago I was forced to contemplate this exact question when mum was diagnosed with bowel cancer. I still remember the exact moment she told me. All of the air disappeared from the room. The vast open space I was standing in became a vacuum and I couldn’t draw air into my lungs.
 
Mother’s Day now reminds me how lucky we are, because we got to keep her.
 
I remember being hit with a sense of urgency at one point when she was sick. This need to capture all of the wisdom in her brain, just incase we couldn't call her in two years time to ask simple things like, ”How do I get pen marks off my jeans (she is the queen of stain removal)?”
 
I’ve always wondered if there is a point or an age at which you know most things and stop ringing your mother for advice? Not having kids, I always assumed it was once you had kids. That somehow the process of childbirth bestowed new wisdom upon you.
 
Then my sister had a baby. I watch and waited…and realised no, childbirth. doesn't do it.
 
In that moment I vowed to write a book containing all of the gems my mum has taught by sister, brother and I over the years. A book we could use if ever we needed her advice and also pass it down to my niece and nephews.
 
I started the book… then mum got better (hooray!!!)…and life got busy and the book stopped.
 
But Mother’s Day has got me thinking again. I need to write that book. Only this time I don't want it to just contain my story. I want to create a book that features the gems of wisdom so many of our mum’s have given us.
 
So here’s your chance. If your mum has given you a great piece of advice, passed a gem of knowledge on that makes life easier, or said something that has helped shape you, share it with me.
 
I'd love to hear your story and with your permission, possibly include it in the book.
X
Patrice
 
 

 


Patrice Gibbons
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Vernetta Rolls
Vernetta Rolls

May 08, 2017

I’m going through the heartbreaking journey of losing my mum. The worst part of this is months of my mum not being there as the mum I know and cherish. She has brain cancer and it’s torture. Everyday I have to remind myself of who she is, what she has taught me and all the amazing things she has done for me. I’ll list a few that are at the front of my mind lately. It’s a random selection of memories that might seem silly to others!

Playing madly and crazily with me as a child and all her beautiful grandchildren. She did a great ( and very scary) wicked witch impression.

Ironing all my clothes ( including undies) to perfection.

Thinking how silly she was when she told me she ‘mourned’ for two years when I ( her 5th child and baby)moved out of home ( I get it now mum).

Her chicken curry, tuna bake, rice custard and cutlets.

Laying in bed with her listening to ’ cabbages campfire’ on the radio and crying to songs like ‘old Shep’ and ‘living next store to Alice’

Saying God Love, lady protect, sweet dreams, see you in the morning , love you’ every night before bed and now at the end of every goodbye and phone conversation. It’s heartbreaking hearing her pause and try to remember this as we say goodbye now. It’s unimaginable knowing that very soon I will be saying this to her for the last time.

Thanks Patrice for giving me a well timed opportunity to put my thoughts into words. Xxx

Leonie Fitzgerald
Leonie Fitzgerald

May 08, 2017

Save a third, spend a third and keep the other third for bills :)

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